grow write guild prompt #2: dream garden

this post was written in response to a prompt from Gayla Trail and her gardening site, “You Grow Girl.”

i’ve spent a lot of time lately mentally apologizing to my mom.

i’ll be reading a book, perusing a magazine, walking across the yard, and it flashes across my head.  “sorry, mom,” often with a rueful shake of the head at my inadequacy.

and not over the usual things – clothes, boys, life choices, credit card bills and the always-tricky “who could you possibly have been on the phone with – for an hour – at 4am?” that comes part and parcel with a family share phone plan.  (fortunately, that one hadn’t come up in years.)

no, i’m sitting here eating my words over coreopsis.  and buddleia.  and periwinkles.  maybe the occasional miscanthus.  because the simple truth is that my mom and i always had a fundamental disagreement over the garden and its appeal as an all-you-can-eat buffet to the herd of deer that cross it twice a day.

i wanted things that are pretty.
she wanted things that would last longer than the first afternoon.

and, with the obstinacy that only comes from a mother-daughter relationship, i remained convinced that none of her suggestions could possibly satisfy us both.  especially since, buddleia aside, my mom had a preference for evergreen plants that i never cottoned on to, leaving me perpetually convinced that any suggestion of hers would involve bark and needles and not much else.  simple perusals of garden catalogs become fronts on our cold war, as i pointed out beautiful photographs of daylillies and tulips and she shook her head and said in a flat voice:  “not.  negotiable.”

for so many reasons, i wish my mom could see my order list so far this spring:

  • coreopsis moonbeam
  • miscanthus morning light
  • joseph cline monarda
  • echinacea purpurea
  • dragon’s blood seedum
  • vinca minor periwinkle

and the garden going in around my pond, which we’ve taken to calling the “memorial garden,” because she promised me that she would wait for me in the flowers.

garden plan 2013

only she hated yarrow.
sorry, mom.

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17 Responses to grow write guild prompt #2: dream garden

  1. Kimbersew says:

    simply beautiful. thank you.

  2. Clio says:

    Beautiful! I have a weird fondness for ornamental grasses. Have you considered foxglove? It’s deer resistant and blooms for some time.

  3. Sarah C says:

    You have been nominated for the Liebster Award! Check out the details on my blog!

  4. Leisa says:

    Devra, this is beautiful, I’m a little teary….we all need somewhere to remember our Mums, how lucky you are to have your pond.
    I can’t wait to see updates on your planting once summer arrives.

  5. SailAway says:

    Can you do sunflowers somewhere, too? She loved sunflowers

  6. Rosie says:

    Your Mom is smiling! Were your ears ringing this past weekend? I described you as a little shy at first with the sweetness of a curious kitten with an ever so tender touch of mischief :-). Lovely post!!!

  7. Valerie says:

    Planting a memorial garden is a very personal tribute. Thanks for sharing yours.

  8. What a lovely tribute to your mother. And the ‘all you can eat buffet’ cracked me up, even as I was getting misty-eyed!

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